Wednesday, July 04, 2007

motherhood, paint and philosophy...

YAY! So Marcel's first day at day home was a success! The caregiver said he had a fantastic day - a long nap, he ate tonnes, he played and played hard ...and made a new friend. She said he bonded with a two year old boy who was showing him how to play with the cars and trucks and she said Marcel's learning curve sky rocketed, she saw him make important social connections and start "imaginative" play all in one afternoon. Cool.
He was so wound up in the evening from such a full day. He was running around the house, laughing and telling everyone stories (in his own language of course!) He finally crash and burned in bed that night. I think he is going to have a lot of fun there...
Michelle and Cam came over and helped put the last coats of paint on the basement. We had fun listening to Mark's new white stripes album, even Jenny helped out. At first it was looking pretty shabby and I think they were all really questioning the yellow, but when we were done it looked a lot better. Im actually really excited. I think once we get all the furniture, and posters and toys out, its going to look will all have to come and see it- or I'll post some pics...
We had a lovely conversation over tea and this amazing thing called ice cream pizza from dairy, what an invention!
We talked about things like...problems with the post secondary education system when its privately funded by investors with personal interests, and how its changing from liberal arts to engineering and business education. - the problem being if the universities dont teach broader education with no vested interest and with higher ideals- who will?
Then we talked about how to share with your friends when they have habbits that really annoy you. How its so much easier to see faults in others than in your self...and why, oh, why, wont people just listen to you when you tell them what you know is true!

Hmmm, I think a few guiding thoughts about that are in order....

"One must see in every human being only that which is worthy of praise. When this is done, one can be a friend to the whole human race. If, however, we look at people from the standpoint of their faults, then being a friend to them is a formidable task."
(Abdu'l-Baha, Selections from the Writings of Abdu'l-Baha, p. 169)

"Should any one among you be incapable of grasping a certain truth, or be striving to comprehend it, show forth, when conversing with him, a spirit of extreme kindliness and good-will. Help him to see and recognize the truth, without esteeming yourself to be, in the least, superior to him, or to be possessed of greater endowments."
(Baha'u'llah, Gleanings from the Writings of Baha'u'llah, p. 8)

The above quote is for good reason. We talked last night how even when you tell someone exactly what they need to do to fix their lives they never actually do it, and sometimes they even just get mad - Hah! Can you imagine! when we are doing them such a favor - right? Well, as Michelle put it, its always better to listen and to ask questions, and help the person discover that truth for themselves...very nicely put...

So we had a lovely evening, and I even read the first three pages of my book before I nearly felt the molecules of my body begin to disassemble and become one with the mattress and pillow...ahh the never replicated experience of a working mother, charging into sleep.


"In former times it was considered wiser that woman should not know how to read or write; she should occupy herself only with drudgery....If the mother be ignorant, even if the father have great knowledge, the child's education will be at fault, for education begins with the milk. A child at the breast is like a tender branch that the gardener can train as he wills."
(Abdu'l-Baha, Divine Philosophy, p. 86)

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